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My wife was a type II diabetic for some years now. Recently 5mls began taking Byetta. Absolutly not exercise. The only thing I can think of to help is to follow the same diet. I have two teenagers and yes eat like horses (and don 't exposure of the name) and I will continue to provide them with carburetors. I am at a loss about how to help my wife deterioration. I am currently reading a book by Dr. Bernstein (solution diabetes). Please help, I am open to suggestions. Thank you, Bird dog
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My wife was a type II diabetic for some years now. Recently 5mls began taking Byetta. Absolutly not exercise. The only thing I can think of to help is to follow the same diet. I have two teenagers and yes eat like horses (and don 't exposure of the name) and I will continue to provide them with carburetors. I am at a loss about how to help my wife deterioration. I am currently reading a book by Dr. Bernstein (solution diabetes). Please help, I am open to suggestions. Thank you, Bird dog
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I think it’s wonderful of you to support her this way – and it won’t hurt you at all, it will just make you healthier!
That is a very sweet and great idea. I’m sure that you following your wife’s plan will be very helpful to her. Maybe also start spending time together by taking walks or doing something else that is excersize. But, walking is nice because you can talk, but you are still getting your heart rate going and it will be good for her.
Also, get some diabetic recipes so that you aren’t eating the same old boring stuff all the time.
The diabetic diet is just very sensible – go for it and what a nice gesture on your part. Why not throw in an after dinner walk around the neighborhood?
It is a great idea for you to follow your wifes diabetic diet. Your boys can too. It is healthy for everyone. Maybe you can talk your wife into just going on an evening walk around outside maybe your boys can go too and then you could have a family time together. Then walk around the block or up the road. Walking is wonderful exercise. Pretty soon she would never even know she was doing it. Just a few extra steps a day will help lower her sugar tremendously you would be surprised
Let me commend you on wanting to support your wife. You are a good husband. No, the diabetic diet will not harm you. In fact, it may make you healthier. It’s the way we really should all eat. Why don’t you also suggest that you take walks together or something.
If your concerned about her health, sure why not. Do healthy diabetic cooking. I’ll eat anything someone else cooks. If you help preparation with meals to help her out, that would be great and if your reading up on healthy diets, that too would be helpful. Sounds like your a loving and caring husband. Go for it!
you might lose weight
No, there is now reson not to, when she sees you eating something that she casnt it, it might make her sink it behind your back, but if she doesnt then there will be no sugaar, unless ur bopys eat it, but keep it out iof her sight.
Following her diet shouldn’t harm you at all. In fact, it might be beneficial in making sure you don’t get sugar diabetes. The real challenge is the exercise, which has been a nagging problem for me. If you can pull her into an exercise routine by starting yourself, you could prolong her life. Try–try very hard. Keep your wife in your life as long as you can. Diabetes is fatal. And remember that your 2 boys are watching everything and learning all the bad and good from that. B.
No, there is nothing to worry about heath wise. It is a very good way to stay healthy and fit, and a good thing of you to do that for her. You must love her allot.
i cant think of any reason not to go on the diet with your wife… but i would suggest checking with your doctor first just to make sure…
as for other ways to help your wife through this – just support her and be there for her. make sure she knows how much you and your sons need her and love her.
best of luck! i truly hope this somehow helps!
If she and you stopped all dairy, Milk, cheese, yougourt, eggs, and try the Vegan diet, you can find out more by going to Vegsource.com and check it out, I lost 40 pounds, over 127 points off my cholesterol and more than 22 points off my sugar by following this reccomended diet and i was 37 when i started, its slow going but Its amazing how it works good luck. But I also do not eat meat or fish either.
I can certainly understand where you’re coming from.
I have had type 1 diabetes for 13 years now, and from my experience and knowledge I have picked up around the condition, I have discovered one particular thing that is relevant to your question.
They are too many misconceptions about diabetes – especially when it comes to diet.
It is a shame your wife will not exercise, as its a great way to keep the heart ticking nicely. (may I suggest ***? – tee hee)
However, I would like to point out that there is actually no such thing as a ‘diabetes diet’. It is simply healthy eating, balancing all the fibre and nutrients that everyone needs in their diet. There is no reason why a person with diabetes can’t have chocolate or something sweet following a high fibre meal.
I’m not sure where your from (so I’m hoping you’re in the UK so this next peice of advice will be more relavent) Your wife should be under the care of a diabetes team no doubt? In which case, go and talk to her dietician, or someone within the team who will be able to talk you through the healthy dietry options.
Please stay clear of so called ‘Diabetic foods’ especially chocolate.
And last but not least – there is absolutely no reason whatsoever that you shouldn’t or cannot have the same diet as your wife. I’m sure you will actually benefit from it aswell
Good Luck – and I hope this helps
My younger sister is very diabetic and I know what you are saying. For a long while she would just do as she pleased and eat as she wanted until she had to be admitted to the hosp. with a condition that start w/a K, (can’t recall what it was) in any event she doesn’t always take care of herself but better now that she is in her 40’s. I would suggest a walk after supper maybe just to the corner and back.
The sons eating like horses, I remember when I could eat any and all things and not gain a pound.
Good luck.
Her diabetic diet is a very health one so by all means do follow it. It would also help if you would take a nice long walk with her each and every day. Getting a few good cookbooks will also help. I have enclosed a few good sites for you to check out. Your wife can live a long life as a diabetic if she follows the diet. How can she go wrong with a loving husband like you at her side….*soft smile*
We (the whole world) should be on a diabetic diet -it is one of the healthiest out there. Can you motivate her to AT LEAST walk with you (maybe taking the dog for a walk?, if you have one, that is). TALK to her – tell her that you are afraid she is going to DIE and suffer while she is doing it.. and that you don’t want her to do this to herself – You or the KIDS.. Guilt her into walking, if necessary. .. promise her anything – if she will take 1/2 hour walks with you EVERY DAY. Gradually increase the walks to an hour.. talk her into it – as quiet – personal time for you and her. The Kids can go with and ride bikes – or skateboard -or whatevever – ahead of you. Make it a family HABIT! It will be good all of you. iF YOU CAN do it 21 days in a row – It will become a HABIT and one of the BEST you can do for you all.
It is a good idea to do this because it will not harm you.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink. You may understand what is going on, but you can’t force your wife to do what she needs to. That has to come from her. Are you aware of anyone who didn’t take care of their diabetes and now is at a disability? Their voice will go twice as far as yours when they start talking about regrets!
-Finding the telephone man who can’t work any more because he didn’t take care of himself and lost his sight.
-Finding the lady that said that is just a small ulcer and in so doing lost her foot.
Talk to the Diabetes Association and you will find a number of people there who will give you advice and hook you up with people like I mentioned.
For years, I’ve known that I should exercise but I was always too busy. I own a dog and it wasn’t fair to her but I rationallized that she had a big yard to play in.
Then I started working part-time in April and made the commitment to use some of that “free time” to exercise so now I do walk an hour a day. The dog is in 7th heaven!
Do you know why your wife won’t exercise?
If it’s lack of time, you’ll have to figure out how to make time. If it’s boredom, try to find something she doesn’t find boring. I find treadmills horribly boring and stationery bicycles are Satan’s tools but I enjoy walking around my new neighborhood (moved in January) because it’s pretty, with trees and squirrels, quail, rabbits… even a desert fox. I have now bought myself a bicycle even though I haven’t been on a bike in 30 years.
The walking started getting boring recently (after all, I’ve been walking this area for almost 6 months) so I got a CD Walkman and listen to peppy tunes as I walk my dog. (I won’t wear it on the bike, obviously.)
I think it’s terrific that you’re going to follow her eating plan. I find it very, very frustrating to go to my family’s homes and they have all the kinds of things I shouldn’t have lying around: cookies, pie, cake, whatever.
I’ve read that Benfotiamine (a form of thiamine) is good for diabetics and helps reduce problems associated with poorly regulated sugars (that’s me) so I’ve started taking that, too. You might research what supplements might be helpful. I also take Vitamin C and alpha-lipoic acid.
I know what you are saying. I am a type II diabetic. My husband has high insulin, high blood pressure, is glucose intolerant and lactose intolerant. He and I are on the same diets except that he continues to drink diet sodas, eat candy and eat a few other things that I try to stay away from. It makes it hard for me, if those items are in the house.
You will do great on her diet. Just make sure your portions are larger as you need more nutrients. Truly, your sons don’t need a separate diet, either, just larger portions as they are still growing.
As one of the other answerers suggested, there are other exercises beside walking. Maybe cuddling up to your wife, asking for some of her time, hinting toward the bedroom, then subtly giving her the choice of that or some time out in the fresh air may get her going. Once she starts exercising, however reluctantly, she will feel better, and more like continuing. I know I would feel better if I did 10 minutes of stretches in the morning and evening, but I rarely do. Just remember, housework counts as exercise too.
Hey BD, you have a lot of good suggestions here. Let me put in my two cents also. I have worked with diabetics. I am a wellness consultant. changing you diet to complement your wife’s is great. May I suggest looking at low glycemic foods and a natural supplement that will help your wife stay healthy and keep her immune system strong? ypo can send me an email later.
God Bless.
My partner follows my diet and we have never be healthier, and both lost weight over time (no quick crash stuff)….it would be a really good move to do this, as It would show your feelings and have a further positive bonding effect
Shame about the not exercising …as you would know this is an important part of the regime
Has She tried psychological help such as cognitive behavioral therapy .(CBT)… this maybe of help to find out why She will not exercise (I would not necessarily believe the reasons She says She will not exercise She may think this but deeper down different reason)
and maybe remedy this situation …could help